October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

10-01-2017The Well

Know the Facts

Domestic abuse and violence refers to a pattern of violent and coercive behavior exercised by one adult in an intimate relationship over another. It is not a private family matter. Domestic violence, also known as intimate partner violence (IPV) is defined by the Centers for Disease Control as a serious, preventable public health problem that affects millions of Americans. It refers to the physical, sexual, or psychological harm by a current or former partner or spouse and does include teen dating relationships. A statistic from the Bureau of Justice indicates that from 1994 to 2010, about 4 in 5 victims of intimate partner violence were female. Domestic violence affects the whole family, including any children. (obtained through Catholics For Family Peace)

What can I do to be helpful if an abusive situation is revealed?

  • Listen, Believe, and Refer. Share that the abuse is not God’s will. Say that help is available 24/7 at the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE (7233)) or at www.ndvh.org.
  • Let the abused person know that without intervention, abuse often escalates in frequency and severity over time.
  • Seek expert assistance by calling the NDVH (National Domestic Violence Hotline). Refer her only to specialized domestic violence counseling programs, not to couples counseling.
  • If possible, encourage the abusive person to seek help. Attending an appropriate 12 step recovery group has been a source of recovery for many people.

How to help the abused reclaim their value and worth as children of God?

What would you do if your best friend or fellow parishioner told you about an abusive situation? Rose Folsom will show you how anyone can use three ordinary Christian virtues to safely walk with them toward healing. Visit www.catholicsforfamilypeace.org each Monday in October for a multi-part lesson in providing hope, help, and healing using gifts you already have!

As always, if you have question or concerns regarding this article or anything in relation to your health, do not hesitate to contact Kathy Ford RN/Parish Nurse at 630-922-0081 ext. 28 or pastoralcare@hscc.us.